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”喜び” それとも ”幸せ”? “Joy” or “Happiness”?

In my books and essays I very often use the word «JOY». All the details of what I call « Art de Vivre », and « Lifestyle Design » is about this… But a lot of my readers still think that the words «JOY» and «Happiness» mean the same thing.
Do you know think so?

In fact, thinking that “joyful” and “happy” means the same thing is the source of almost all our suffering. Why? Because “joy” is a state without any condition, without reason, it is our natural state when we are globally «healthy». But “happiness” is an emotion depending on conditions. When we look for happiness we always have a desire in mind. If we get it satisfied we feel happy.If we cannot get it satisfied we feel frustrated. Even if we get satisfied, the problem is that usually, after we get what we wish we have to jump to the next wish or we feel depressed.

That’s what happens with a lot of weddings. People look for a partner. They find it. They wish to be happier so they decide to get married. They prepare the wedding with great excitement then the wedding day comes and they get high. What about next morning when the wedding dress is back to the closet?

What happens to the same couple after one year, five year, ten years,…?
I am sure you know the story… Why does this happen to so many people? It is because “happiness” is like a drug, it is a kind of “vitamin drink”. You drink it, then after a while, you get the after effects… People often get more depressed after being «happy» than before, so they look for a new «fix».

With joy, it is different. Joy is not an emotion, it is a state. In joy, we live our everyday life in a spirit of celebration : waking up in the morning is joy, taking breakfast is joy, cooking is joy, making bouquets is joy, cleaning the house is joy, meeting people in the street is joy,..In this state of mind we are able to meet all problems in a relaxed manner because we see them in a true light, we understand their meaning, all the solutions come to us without struggle.

It is interesting to see that in English, the word « Healthy » comes from «whole». «Being whole» means that you are complete, that you have everything you need within yourself and you feel it. Another word have the same origin it is «Holly» (wholly) . Usually we understand «holly» as a religious word meaning «sacred»… This gives us a hint about the «Art of life». When we look at everything, at every person, at every situation, every detail as «important», our life becomes «holly» (whole, complete). This is our natural state, this is JOY.